I can imagine what you think right now: “Are you crazy? How should I go 120 days without porn when I have been watching it on a daily basis for years?”

To be honest, I don’t want you to not only not watch porn but also stop masturbating for 120 days as well. And before you shut your browser window right now, just hear me out.

I’ve been watching porn on a daily basis for almost 15 years. What you need to know is that I already started my PMO (Porn-Masturbation-Orgasm) reboot back in November 2012. This means I am already 54 days in which gives me a bit of an advantage in knowledge and experience that I can share with you. Nevertheless, I will do the total 120 days with you guys as well. But more importantly, if I made it this far, you can too.

It’s important to constantly remind yourself why you do this and the answer should be “To experience great sex in the future”. If you are aware of this goal at any time, it will make it much easier when it gets tough.

The only thing you need to do, which is actually the challenge here, is to quite your lizard brain. The lizard brain is evolutionary speaking one of the oldest parts of your brain and among other functions responsible for the fight or flight reflex. It further more seeks for instant gratification which makes sense in a scarce world but can lead to obesity or porn addiction in a world full of abundance. Although your lizard brain may lure you into unhealthy behavior, in the end, it’s always your decision. Always remember, not acting is a decision as well.

Now, it’s up to you and your willpower whether you want to keep stuck in the habitualized rat race of porn addiction and further desensitize your brain as I explained in my blog post on why Porn is the Enemy of Great Sex or fight the urge for instant gratification of watching porn and masturbating for 4 months and instead lay the foundation for amazing sexual experiences that you might not have had since you were 15 or worse never had in your life before.

What’s four months compared to amazing sex for the rest of your life, right? So, the answer should be pretty simple. Don’t you think? Exactly!

So let’s do it. Let’s stop watching porn and masturbating for a total of 120 days starting NOW!

THE RULES

1) DO NOT CONSUM PORNOGRAPHIC MATERIAL
This means to not seek out and watch pornographic material either as video, image or text both online and offline. This includes services such as chatroulette or online dating websites or apps.

2) DO NOT MASTURBATE
Do not masturbate neither to porn nor to your fantasy. Give your brain a break and let it rewire itself to the real deal before we reawaken our libido after the 120 days again and strongly wire it to what reality has to offer.

That’s it. These are the two rules and they are actually pretty simple but can be tough to follow. You might have a couple of questions now. That’s great. Let me answer the most obvious and important ones.

ISN’T IT UNHEALTHY TO NOT EJACULATE FOR SUCH A LONG TIME?

No it’s not. If you do not ejaculate for a couple of days, your semen will get reabsorbed by your body. You also won’t get so called blue balls if you don’t watch porn or get aroused somehow else. In fact, you might notice an increase in energy after a couple of days of not ejaculating. We’ll use that knowledge and technique to transmute sexual energy into e.g. creative energy towards the end of the year.

WHAT IF I AM IN A RELATIONSHIP?

If you are in a relationship right now, stick to the two rules nevertheless. Do not consume pornographic material and do not masturbate on your own.

In general, physical contact with other women or men is a good thing because it helps rewiring your brain back to the real stimuli of touch, smell, … I think you are even safe to enjoy sexual encounters with you partner, just make sure to not stimulate your penis yourself and don’t make to orgasm your goal as we so often do. Rather focus on the moment to moment sensations and let your partner stimulate you. If you ejaculate, well that’s great but if you can’t just don’t force it.

Talking to your partner about this and letting her know why you do this and explain that it will positively affect him as well in the long run might be a good idea. This might actually become a great opportunity to further or reconnect again with your partner emotionally during sex.

I’ll explore these kind of perspectives and techniques, especially in combination with masturbation, later this year more in detail.

IS PORN AND MASTURBATION BAD IN GENERAL?

No. Like with any tool, it depends on how you use it. You can use a knife to prepare a nice meal or if you don’t know how to handle it hurt yourself. Especially masturbation can be physically pretty healthy e.g. for your prostate or psychologically for your wellbeing if you do it right and that’s mostly a mindset that I’ll explore later in the project.

I also believe that there are personal and societal positive aspects of porn that I’ll look into after our 120 days of PMO reboot. But for now, let’s stop watching porn and masturbating to rewire our brain accordingly so we can boost our sex lives.

LET’S GET THE REBOOT STARTED

What I can tell you from my experience so far is that the first day is pretty easy. Don’t be fooled because usually the second and the third day become the toughest. Make sure to consciously observe yourself the first week. Watch out for urges and habitualized actions that might lead to watching porn and/or masturbating. Try to subsidize them with something different by redirecting your focus. After that, it gradually gets easier again. I promise.

If you join The Great 120 Days Without Porn Challenge, make a public commitment by commenting in the comment section below or posting it to Twitter. By making it official, you psychologically trigger yourself to stick to it more than by keeping it to yourself.

I’ll use Twitter and the hashtag #120DaysNoPorn to document my day to day experiences. If you use Twitter as well, join me in using the hashtag to let me know that your are in as well so I can put you in the Porn Challenge Twitter list, containing all publicly committed users. Also make sure to use the hashtag when you write about your experiences so I can retweet you.

Of course you can also use the comment section below if you have any questions or want to share your experiences or thoughts along the way.

Next week, I’ll look into how habits work and how to replace them with other more productive and healthy habits that will help us transform ourselves into a Sex God.