The 28 Days No PMO Challenge is the first chapter in the Sex God Project #Reboot2015. If you are not familiar with the framework or don’t know what PMO means or what benefits you’ll get from quitting porn, make sure to read the introduction here first.
One Rule to Guide Them All
The challenge itself is actually quite simple. There is only one rule you should follow and that rule is: Don’t consume pornographic content and masturbate for 28 days.
First and foremost this means the combination of watching porn and masturbating with an orgasm as its result. The PMO habit cycle is basically the root of all evil for most of us who struggle with porn addiction in general and porn-induced erectile dysfunction in specific.
Although the PMO habit cycle is the core issue, I would also recommend to not consume any pornographic or erotic content without masturbation or orgasm. First of all, it’s the easiest way a relapse is triggered and second of all, your brain is already overstimulated with pornographic images and needs to rebalance itself in that regard first.
I would also recommend not using any chat or dating sites and apps such as Tinder or Grindr since it’s highly probable to receive nude pictures. As a rule of thumb, simply mind everything where you’ll be exposed to nude or pornographic images.
In general you can’t 100% avoid to not stumble upon pornographic or erotic imagery. And the point is not to mind them like the devil. The point is not to engage with them. So whenever you accidentally bump into pornographic imagery just notice consciously that it’s pornographic imagery and redirect your attention to what you were doing.
What About Masturbation Without Porn?
The rule includes also any kind of auto-masturbation. This means any kind of masturbation where you stroke your penis yourself. There is two reasons why any kind of auto-masturbation shouldn’t be practiced within the first 28 days.
The first reason is that when we masturbate without watching porn we trade external porn imagery for fantasies, which can also be seen as internal porn imagery, and that most likely resemble what we usually watch on screen.
The second reason is that we have most likely conditioned our brain to a certain mechanical masturbation habit that desensitized our brain over time. This is one of the main reasons guys experience either delayed ejaculation and/or erectile dysfunction.
This doesn’t mean that masturbation is unhealthy in itself. It only means the way we got used to masturbate has become unhealthy. There is an approach to masturbation that I call mindful masturbation but we’ll have a look at that after the 28 days since we need to give our brain some time to recover both from overstimulation and desensitization.
What About Sex?
Sex is not included in the rule because that’s the goal for most of us, to have more (meaningful) sexual experiences and any physical sexual experience helps our brain and our mind to recover.
So, if you have the possibility to sexually engage with another person, great go for it but don’t forget that masturbation is part of the rule, so don’t masturbate to have an orgasm even when you are with another person. This is important.
If another person masturbates you, that’s fine and if you orgasm from that or because of oral, vaginal or anal sex, that’s perfectly fine too. Just don’t do it yourself.
When You Are in a Relationship
My personal advice for everyone who is in a relationship is to talk about your issue and include your partner by making her or him in alley on your journey. This can become a strong assets to be successful.
I am doing it together with my boyfriend and not that only his support helps me on my journey, it has also become an opportunity for us to further bond emotionally.
In case you are afraid of what your partner may think or say, don’t worry, I am sure someone who really cares about you will understand and want to support you. And why wouldn’t they if it means better sexual experiences with you in the future for them as well?
To put it in a nutshell, you should not engage yourself in pornographic imagery or fantasize about sexual scenarios and not touch your penis. Everything else should be fine. If you are not sure, you can always ask in the comment section below and I’ll try to get back to you with an answer as soon as possible.
Any questions? Good. Let’s do this!
This is the First Day of the Rest of Your Life
If you haven’t masturbated today, this will be your first day of the upcoming 28 days. If you have already masturbated today, don’t worry, just start counting your first day tomorrow.
The rule is fairly simple which doesn’t necessarily mean easy. Quitting porn is anything else but easy, simply for the fact that the sexual force is one of the strongest life forces within us.
But on the other hand, it’s not impossible and I can promise you one thing for sure, if you stick to the plan, you’ll never be the same person again.
There is a couple of things you should set-up to be successful. There was a lot of trial and error in this for me which took me a couple of months to figure it out. I want to share these experiences and insights with you so that you’ll have the best chances from day one.
Just read and follow the 8 Necessary Steps to Quit Porn for Good.